Our danger is not too few, but too many options ... to be puzzled by innumerable alternatives.
For Mother’s Day, my daughter introduced us to a card game called Spoons.
Now listen…this game stressed me out immediately.
The goal sounds simple enough. Everyone is trying to get four matching cards. Four queens, four jacks, four aces, whatever combination you decide on. The cards move fast, almost like an assembly line. One person pulls from the deck and passes unwanted cards down the line. You can only hold four cards at a time, and the person at the end creates a discard pile for everything nobody else wants.
Somewhere in the middle of all this chaos, once someone gets four matches, they quietly grab a spoon from the center of the table. If you notice, you grab one too. And the person left without a spoon loses.
Simple.
Except…it was not simple for me at all.
Everybody else seemed to catch on quickly while I sat there completely overwhelmed trying to process all the possibilities.
Because while I was trying to get four queens…here came three jacks.
Then two aces.
Then three kings.
Then maybe I should switch strategies.
Wait…maybe Jokers?
No…go back to Queens.
Wait…who grabbed a spoon?!
A mess.
At one point we were all laughing because I could not get it together.
The lesson from that game stayed with me long after we finished playing.
Because the reason the game was difficult for me had less to do with the game itself and more to do with how my brain works every single day.
As a mom, executive, business owner, visionary, leader, and wearer of the 47 invisible hats women somehow end up carrying…I am constantly thinking.
What’s next?
What needs to pivot?
What patterns am I noticing?
What’s connected?
What should I prepare for next?
What’s for dinner?
What does everyone need?
What didn’t I finish?
What opportunity should I explore?
What if this opens another door?
It’s like having 50 tabs open in my brain at all times.
And that’s exactly how I approached the game.
I kept changing directions because new options kept appearing.
But eventually I realized something:
The people winning were not the people trying to manage every possibility.
They were the people who picked one thing and committed to it.
If they chose queens, they stayed with queens.
Even when jacks showed up.
Even when another option looked promising.
Even when something else became available.
Winning the game was not actually about switching strategies every time a new option appeared. It required me to wait for what I committed to become manifested.
Did you catch that? Because if you’re like me, that’s the hard part.
We want confirmation immediately.
Results immediately.
Manifestation immediately.
And when it does not happen fast enough, we start reconsidering the instruction.
We start entertaining other options.
We start questioning whether we heard God correctly in the first place.
But the game taught me something powerful:
Commitment requires patience.
And immediately I thought about Joshua.
Before the walls of Jericho ever fell, before Joshua ever saw the victory manifested naturally, God told him this in Joshua 6:2:
“See! I have given Jericho into your hand, its king, and the mighty men of valor.”
Wait.
God said “I have given” before Joshua ever physically possessed it.
The promise already existed.
The instruction was already clear.
But Joshua still had to stay committed long enough to see what God said actually manifest in his hands.
That ministered to me deeply. Because how many things have we abandoned simply because they did not show up quickly? How many assignments have we questioned because another option appeared while we were waiting? How many times have we mistaken delay for denial?
Studies on decision fatigue show that the more decisions we try to process at once, the more mentally exhausted we become. Over time, too many options do not create freedom. They create paralysis, anxiety, distraction, and exhaustion.
I think that’s where a lot of us are spiritually too.
We keep entertaining every possible thing we could do instead of fully committing to the thing God already told us to do.
That part hit me deeply, because, like most of us, I have a lot of gifts.
A lot of interests.
A lot of ways I could serve, build, create, lead, and impact people.
And for a long time, I kept trying to hold all the possibilities at once.
But God has actually made my assignment very clear:
I am called to develop talent for the Kingdom.
That’s it.
That’s the lane.
And while other opportunities may come…
While other options may look attractive…
While other “cards” may pass through my hands…
There is power in committing to the thing God said.
James 1:8 says:
“A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
I used only think about that scripture in the context of as salvation and living right for God, but it hits different now.
Because being double minded is not always rebellion.
Sometimes it looks like constantly changing direction.
Constantly second guessing.
Constantly chasing every opportunity instead of committing to the assignment God already revealed.
I believe this is the season God is calling many of us into.
Not confusion.
Not constant pivoting.
Not chasing every open door.
But clarity.
Commitment.
Alignment.
And clarity does not always mean knowing every detail about what happens next.
Clarity also means deciding to commit to what God said in obedience.
When we focus on what God told us to do, despite all the other options passing by, we win.
So let me ask you this:
What has God called you to do? And why aren’t you doing it yet?
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